20 months ago, a few days before Christmas I was trying to check into the hospital. My water had been broken for 16 hours. I was gbs+ so I knew I would need antibiotics to protect my baby from the infection, and with my waters released I knew to prevent further infections I should not have any vaginal exams. The Gatekeeper, aka nurses’ station, told me that I couldn’t check in unless they confirmed my water had broken, since I was very much not acting like a women in labor. The surges were coming, but I was still walking and talking through them. I showed them a copy of my birth plan, which my ob/gyn had signed off on, stating that I did not have to have any vaginal exams. They said without the exam they would not check me in. I said fine, I am going to go walk around Ikea, they then told me I couldn’t leave if my water had broken- I was in the proverbial rock and a hard place. After much discussion with my birth team, and the nurses, it was agreed upon how they could check my waters. I had given very detailed informed consent, and even more detailed informed refusal. The nurse ignored my informed refusal, violated me, and set me on a path that would change my life forever.